Is the Taboo of Co-Sleeping a Fallacy?

With my first daughter I was bound and determined to do everything by the book and set limits with her to provide a strong foundation for consistency and discipline for both myself and for her.  Even the first night in the hospital I kept putting her back into the bassinet and climbing back into the horribly uncomfortable bed just to get up a few minutes later to calm her screaming once she realized I set her down.  Swaddling didn’t make a difference and I was exhausted and overwhelmed.  Hours after this routine a nurse finally came in and told me to give in because she obviously wanted to be comforted by her mama.  She helped me get comfortable to breastfeed on my side and left us to sleep for the night.  I felt so guilty but reassured myself that the nurse told me it was okay and once we get home and get into a comfortable routine she would start sleeping in her own bed.  Boy was I optimistic!  Little Ava was in our bed for at least 3 months before I was able to get her into her crib and then once she started teething at 5 months she was back in our bed again until she was 9 months old. 

This time around, I again was determined to sleep alone in my bed without the baby – ha! Still not happening.  I bought the Arms Reach Co-sleeper thinking that I could just set her back into her own surface and I could be free to move around in my sleep as I please.  Wrong!  I don’t think my girls have similar personalities at this point but they sure do like sleeping with their mama.  It’s the only way my little Elliana will sleep at night and stay asleep for more than 20 minutes.  She can be so upset and then calm down in minutes once she finds the comfort of my boob.  She doesn’t even have to be eating but she has her little hands snuggled around one of my gigantic football sized (yes, they are huge right now) boobs.  She looks so precious and I wish I had the gumption to take a photo even though I don’t think I would show anyone. 

Now is this really taboo?  It seems most of my mama friends will tell me they co-sleep whether they planned it or not and many of them truly enjoy the bonding time.  I have to say it is so much more convenient while breastfeeding and it really does provide a bonding experience.  I realize it is scary to think that you could roll over on your child because you are so sleep deprived but in my experience, I don’t think it’s possible to be unaware of where your baby is while you co-sleep.  It’s like an innate biological response to wake up the moment you feel or hear anything but quiet or stillness. Of course people will tell you horror stories about someone they know or something they heard but I think if you fall asleep intentionally with your little munchkin and you are not under the influence of substances then there isn’t any danger.  Obviously, take precaution to make sure the sheets are fitted properly, there are no blankets that could smother the baby and you are comfortable with the decision to co-sleep – otherwise don’t do it!

Side-note: I did have the co-sleeper attached to my bed and my daughters both woke up because they were still too far away from me in the night.  I had the crib up against our bed with Ava and this time the co-sleeper with Elliana.  One foot away from me was too far for both of them.  This time we bought a king size bed and make the room for our little one to have extra space around her.

Ava’s Bedroom Redecorated

Im sure everyone has seen the wall art that comes in tubes that you just stick on the wall to create a masterpiece in minutes.  Have you ever wondered if it’s really that easy and if it will actually look good on your walls?  Well, I found an awesome Etsy shop that has various options to create a small scene or a very large scene on your walls and I was very impressed.  I did this a few years ago before my first daughter was born.  I had an obsession with Circles so I purchesed the “Confetti Wall Graffic Set” from Michelle & Christina Art & Design on Etsy for $68.  I received 84 decals and I was able to choose up to 6 colors.  This is my creation:


So, my sweet little daughter decided she doesnt like the circles anymore and “Mommy, please take them off” so she could go to sleep in her own room.  Completely different story but she decided she wouldnt sleep in her own room after baby #2 arrived.  Now that we are slowly making the transition back into her room, she is redecorating.  I bought the new stickers from Kohls and they came in a tube with enought stickers to create a tree design over an area above my daughter’s queen size bed.  I didnt measure but it would make a nice centerpiece in a giant headboard if she had one.   I got these on sale for $9 on clearance but I believe designs around this size run between $20 and $30.  Here is the new design:









I do love Michelle & Christina’s unique designs and would highly recommend that you check their etsy store before settling for the generic patterns that are sold in almost every super store.  I was not solicited to write this article and was not compensated in any way.  I merely wanted to display the changes I made to my daughter’s room.  We kept the circles over the rocking chair where the new baby’s crib now resides and over the doorway 🙂


Make your own Washing Detergent!

My friend shared this recipe on her blog Through Hazel Eyes and I think she is a genius.  She also has handy tips for repurposing an oxyclean container to store small amounts of your new detergent.  All you need is 4 ingredients, a garbage bag, and some large container such as a garbage pail or 5 gallon bucket.  I cant wait to make this.  My husband thinks Im absolutely nuts but I am all about saving on expensive detergents especially if I can make my own for less than $17 a year.  Check it out by clicking the link above.

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